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This is Page 2 of How to Overcome Fear and Resistance to Feedback where I am reviewing the four feedback acceptance steps that can be easily remembered with the acronym: H.E.L.P.
On this Page. I'll share more about the 2nd Step: E. Examining Why.
My exposure to feedback about my performance more than tripled when I started my business in 2004. I had many restless nights and anxious moments - all that feedback was causing inner angst and turmoil.
I knew that getting feedback on every thing I did as a Consultant was just all part of being a Consultant, and I really wanted to do well. I knew I had to figure out how to overcome my fear and resistance about feedback if I was going to continue.
My own assessment tools and a review of past experiences helped me examine why I was having such strong reactions to feedback. This insight helped me better understand my ‘sensitivity to feedback,’ which then helped me gently and firmly manage my focus, self-talk and reactions to it.
The Greatest
Fear for Each of the Four DISC Behavioral Styles:
How
strong the fear is depends upon how strong the
Style is for you, what
other Styles are also a part of your natural personality and the circumstances you're
facing.
-High D - Dominance – Fear of the Loss of Control
-High I - Influence – Fear of Social Rejection
-High S - Steadiness – Fear of Change
-High C- Compliance – Fear of Getting It Wrong
Greatest Area of
Stress for Each for the Six Motivators:
How strongly you will feel the stress for your top motivator will depend upon high strong the motivator is for you, what other motivators are also strong and the actual circumstances you are facing.
-Theoretical /Knowledge–Inability to learn and build
expert status.
-Utilitarian/Economic-Wasted resources, time and
material.
-Social/Altruistic – Decisions that are
insensitive to others.
-Traditional/Regulatory-Opposition to their
beliefs.
-Individualistic/Political-Actual or perceived diminishing/loss
of power.
-Aesthetic – Too much objective focus &
inability to express feelings.
Recommended Feedback Acceptance Action: Review your personal assessment results and background through the lens of: receiving feedback from others. Figure out where your own sensitivities lie. With this awareness you can begin to smartly manage your natural reactions more effectively.
Go to Page 3 for Feedback Acceptance Step Three- L. Learning Balance
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