This is Page 4 of How to Overcome Fear and Resistance to Feedback where I am reviewing the four feedback acceptance steps that can be easily remembered with the acronym: H.E.L.P.
On this Page. I'll share more about the 4th Step: P. Pick What You Use.
The last insight I’ll share here in how to overcome fear of feedback is this important understanding that: All feedback may not be about you, but all feedback IS for you. Take a minute to write that down. Read it again, and remember it.
Feedback comes to you by way of each person’s behavioral style. One person might want you to get to the bottom line quickly (High D’s), and another person might want you to provide all the details and the logic (High C’s). In addition we all have different life views and experiences that, rightly so, causes each of us to have our own goals, preferences and biases around what we think is “right” and what we think other people should do.
Feedback is often another person’s perception, it is definitely not always ‘the truth’ or the only way. It’s just one person’s perception.
But, knowing what another person's perceptions are, is powerful. Once you know you can begin to understand what other people see. You can look at situations from a different vantage point. And, with this wider view of information, you can make better decisions about the actions you take.
Recommended Feedback Acceptance Action:
If you value feedback (Step 1: How Important Feedback Is…) and you begin to understand your own natural human reactions to it (Step2: Examine Why), while you’re intently listening to feedback in a neutral manner (Step 3: Learning Balance) you can begin to sort through the feedback and choose which feedback you'll use to reach your goals, and what you’ll let go (Step 4: Pick What You Use).
It’s still not always easy for me, and I suspect, for many of us. But with these four how to overcome fear and resistance to feedback steps, it gets easier and easier to continually advance and grow professionally. Yea!
"If you don't get feedback from your performers and your audience,
you're going to be working in a vacuum."
Peter Maxwell Davies
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