Before I can share about how to overcome fear and resistance to feedback, I have to admit: I have my own fears and resistance to feedback!
When I became an independent facilitator and consultant in 2004 it was unnerving how much feedback I received all day, every day.
I felt like everyone had an opinion about my work and how I was doing it! And so, along the way I've found some tricks and tips that have helped me get better at accepting feedback, and I want to share them with you.
Here are Four Feedback Acceptance Steps that help me every day ‘make peace’ with, and mostly overcome, my fear and resistance around other's feedback. These four steps can easily be remembered with the acronym: H.E.L.P.
Let's review each Feedback Acceptance Step:
I’m a fan of the reality t.v. show American Idol, I never miss an episode. I’m amazed at how fast these talented "kids” turn into confident and competent professionals in their craft.
What do Kellie Pickler (a past American Idol contestant) and skill development for business professionals have in common? What they have in common is: Growth is accelerated when you get alot of feedback and you practice your skills in a focused way.
It’s easier to accept feedback when you realize
that feedback can help you reach your goals more quickly. Feedback simply lets you know what's working well and what could be getting in your way.
Here's a simple personal example of helpful feedback: if you're at a party and your friend lets you know you have spinach in your teeth, well THAT's good information to know, is it?
Feedback is EXACTLY what you want when you get distracted in your car and you start to swerve into the next lane. When the car beside you taps his horn to let you know, you LIKE that feedback because it helped you avoid a wreck.
We have a love/hate relationship with feedback.
But when you start realizing how HELPFUL feedback is to your success, personally and professionally, it gets a little easier to allow it and to be more open to it.
Recommended Action for This Feedback Acceptance Step: Review my What is Feedback article. Use the idea that 'feedback is helpful to me' to help yourself to begin noticing how much feedback can help reach your goals and dreams.
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