Self Motivation Technique:
Is It a 'Hell No' or 'Hell Yes?'

This self motivation technique “Hell No or Hell Yes” requires that you follow your instincts. If you don’t, you end up like I did, not motivated or inspired and spending time and energy somewhere that’s not the best fit for you.

Sometimes we have to live out our own lessons to get them. I knew about this self motivation technique, but ignored it.

Here's What Happened...

He was gracious, interested and interesting as he described how the association he developed helps consultants build and expand their businesses.

I listened and feigned interest because he was so sincere and obviously passionate about what he's doing.

I wrote the date of his next association meeting in my calendar, agreeing that I would “be happy to attend” as I ignored my own motivation technique thinking and feeling that I was not interested at all in the association or in attending this meeting.

Yesterday, I received a “Courtesy Touch” email from this very nice person reminding me about the meeting. He’d customized the message and was so darn friendly that I didn’t have the heart to cancel, though I wanted to.

So this morning, I got up at 5:30 a.m. so I could get ready , walk the dog and get out the door in time to miss traffic (I live in Atlanta) to get to this meeting, that I did not want to attend, by 7:00 a.m.

A nice meeting in a very nice private business club with very nice people – I found it mostly boring and overall not a fit for me.

What a surprise! (She says as she mocks herself for ignoring this important self motivation technique).

All day today, since the meeting, I’ve been trying to resist the temptation to list all the reasons why this group is not where I want to spend my time.

But I must remember I don’t have to make them wrong in order for me to choose what’s best for me. And I can still applaud him and his passion around what he’s developing even if participation’s not a match for me.

This self motivation technique is all about the gift of Guidance. I’d received Guidance around how I felt (my gut instinct was “Hell No, Not Interested”) about this type of meeting and marketing ,based on my past experience and my future intentions.

But because I wanted to ‘be nice,’ I ignored my Guidance.

No big deal in the big scheme of things in life. But it is a life lesson that I continue to grasp.

I guess I have to say that I like it when life’s lessons occur in easy errors like this one, instead of really big and hairy issues.

I see small business people (and fitness friends, and I’ve done it too!) running from thing to thing, from person to person, asking,

“What do you think is best, this way or this way?”

The more people we ask, the more variety in answers we get, and the more confused and time scattered we get.

Why are there so many right answers?

Because there are as many right answers as there are people, so in my opinion, there is no one right way, there is only the way that best serves your intentions at that time, and only you know what that is.

I re-remembered this important self motivation technique today: If an opportunity or some information comes your way and you think and feel – “Hell-Yes!” then chances are good, that action is a good one for you.

On the other hand, if you’re feeling “Hell-No!” then this action or idea is not a match. Hell-no, don’t go.

I'll try to remember that the next time...

Here’s information that will help you use this self motivation technique. Below is an emotional guidance scale from my favorite self motivation tips teachers, Abraham-Hicks.

It’s a great self motivation technique because it shows where we are and how far we are away from full joy and empowerment. It's helped me realize that all emotions are good, because if I'm feeling emotions I'm in touch with my Guidance.

With this scale I can tune into where I am. Then try to point toward the next emotion above it, to get a little bit of relief. This way I can move up the scale, one step at the time.

During that meeting today I felt bored. See where that is on the scale? Below where I usually feel around my business and work. Guidance, indeed.

#1 is the highest, most positive and empowered feeling to the emotion that feels the least empowered #21:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
   (Most Empowered Feeling)
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4. Positive Expectation/Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Overwhelment
11. Disappointment
12. Doubt
13. Worry
14. Blame
15. Discouragement
16. Anger
17. Revenge
18. Hatred/Rage
19. Jealousy
20. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
21. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness
    (Least Empowered Feeling)

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