Free Relationship Quiz:
The Art of Knowing When
You've Got A Friend
Three Universal Truths About Friendship...
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I created this 7 question online free relationship quiz so the Three Universal Truths of Friendship to help you answer this Wake Up Eager Secret as very true for you: "I do not have any relationships
that drag me down."
"Life is partly what we make it, and partly
what it is made by the friends we choose."
---Tennessee Williams
Months ago long-time, past-work-friends called and wanted to get together for dinner. I felt torn. I use to like to hang out with these people, but the last few times we'd gotten together, afterward I felt drained and weary. My struggle went something like this, "Should I go because of our history together? Am I obligated? Am I a jerk for not wanting to go? Am I being too picky and bad friend?" If you have 'drainers' in your life, you might recognize my dialogue with myself...am I the only one who talks to her self?? How I resolved my struggle with these friends and with other friendships resulted in the Free Relationship Quiz and this Three Universal Truths About the Art of Friendship article. The Quiz and the Truths have helped me look more objectively at myself and at all the relationships in my life. I've found a way to answer the Wake Up Eager Secret, "I do not have any relationships that drag me down." with a resounding, "YES this is NOW true for me!" I love sharing it with you here and can't wait to find out if any of this benefits you too! (Share your comments & questions here.)
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That way you can refer back to this information again...Official Definition of Friend:
one attached to another by affection or esteem;
acquaintance; one that is not hostile;
one that is of the same nation, party, or group;
one that favors or promotes something (as a charity);
a favored companion. This free relationship quiz will help you be more objective about who you spend time with, but in the end, knowing when you've got a friend, is an art. That is, there is no one single answer that anyone else can answer for you about what you should do about friends who drain you. Three Types of Friends.Use the free relationship quiz to help you sort out your friends' type: - Those like food, without which you can't live.
- Those like medicine, which you need occasionally.
- Those like an illness, which you never want.
Before you begin the free relationship quiz pick one friend to focus on each time you take this one minute quiz. Take it as often as you like, assessing one friendship at a time.
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Wake Up Eager e-newsletter. I make unsubscribing easy and permanent.Did you assess several friends? Were any of them rated on the lower end of the scale as someone who drains you more than uplifts you? The in-exact 'art of friendship' (that's why I call it an art...) is revealed in the free relationship quiz.
There are numerous dynamics and nuances to every friendship, and we often have mixed emotions about our friends. I remember 15 years ago complaining to my then boyfriend and now husband, about my friend Jane. We'd met at work and spent a lot of time together. After being with her I would often whine,
"She wears me out.
It's like she sucks all the energy out of the room!" Years went by. We changed jobs. She moved. We both got married. Eventually we just lost contact with each other. Then, through the magic of the online social networking, we started 'talking' again. She was back in the same city. We decided to get together, for the first time in 4 years. Jeff remembered my complaints and asked, "Are you sure you want to do that?" I ignored my past frustrations and my dear husband, and with only slight hesitation I met Jane for dinner. We spent four hours laughing, talking and sharing, and we had the best time! I felt energized and jazzed after seeing her again. What a great friend! She was amazing and fun! Today, she'd score high on the Free Relationship Quiz! What had changed?
Was it me? Was it her?
Was it just time passing?Here's another friend scenario that sheds insight into the Three Truths about The Art of Friends: (page 2 of this article) My neighbor feeds my cat, gets my mail and is very helpful to us when we have to go out of town or if I ever need anything. We're not close friends, but she's a great neighbor to us. She's loyal and someone I can depend on. We live in a pretty big neighborhood. Every single person on our street has gotten into a fight with this neighbor except us. She's not on speaking terms with anyone else. If I let the other neighbors gossip about her with me, they will. Why do my husband and I get along with her when she fights with every one else? I'll refer to this neighbor story and my friend Jane as I share... Three Universal Truths and Takeaways,
go the page 2 now.
"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain
comes in our relationships with others."
--- Stephen R. Covey
“Truly great friends are hard to find,
difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.”
Why Managing "Drainer" Friends Matters...The reason this friends statement is one of the 22 Wake Up Eager Secrets is: When you have energy and positive things going on in your life, people are drawn to you. They want to spend time with you. And that's a very nice thing.
But, when you start putting their need to be with you above your own preferences you start to feel drained.
When you need (if you have this need) to please others, to 'be nice' and to make 'everyone' happy,
over and above your own needs, well, then, you start not Waking Up Eager. It's time to look at your life holistically. Make more decisions about how you spend your time and who you spend it with. Go to page 2 of this Free Relationship Quiz article, now. Use all the other tools and resources here on this site to bolster all other areas of your own Wake up Eager life... You're in charge, and you like it that way...really.
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