You've told me that you need stress management help by your responses to the this statement: "I feel no worry,stress or dread." on the Wake Up Eager Free Quiz. 9 out of 10 professionals, like you who visit this Site and take the Quiz, tell me that they DO feel worry, stress and dread every day.
According to a more official survey compiled by the American Psychological Association:
Is this just "the way things are when you work?" Or can you still have a very busy work and home life and live with less stress, and more joy? Is that possible in today's world?
I believe you can create less stress and more joy, and that you have more control over the stress you are living then you might currently realize. One of the steps for finding stress management help is to first breakdown where stress comes from, in general terms. This will help you focus on the mental, emotional and physical actions that will help you reduce stress.
Stress can be broken down into three categories:
The last category - Self-Inflicted Stress is the area where have you the greatest opportunityto take control.
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Learning how to handle how much stress, worry & dread you allow yourself to live with, is within your control, and will determine whether you wake up feeling eager or dread.
Professionals who've mastered their ability to manage stress have learned:
Handling stress effectively, or ineffectively, is a learned skill and habit. And we ALL have more control than we sometimes acknowledge.
Stress Management Help - The 'Real Truth' - You may not like this - I didn't when I first ran across it - but here it is:
Whatever level of stress we are feeling on an ongoing basis is
OUR OWN CREATION. It isn't the pressure and situations in our life that
causes the stress, it's our OWN LEARNED and HABITUAL REACTION
to the pressure that creates the worry, stress and dread we're feeling.
This 'truth' made me kind of mad when I first heard it. And, initially, I didn't like the quote (above) from Writer Natalie Goldberg, either - where she's basically telling us to not make such a big deal out of things.
My inner dialogue, when I first saw her quote, went something like this,
"How could this stress I am feeling be my my creation?!?! And, how can I just 'lie down' - this is SERIOUS!! Let me tell you how bad it is...They did this...And then that happened...and this happened...and... "
This idea of stress being our own creation and that we can control (and/or manage) our reaction to what is happening around us, may cause you to feel a little defensive at first, like I did.
But maybe you'll be like me and, over time, start to LIKE this truth.
You might find that you like the idea that how much stress you feel relates to how well you learn how to take care of yourself and your reactions. Here's some of my own thinking about all of this that helped turn my initial defensiveness around, "If the level of stress I'm feeling is my creation, then I can create something different. Knowing that my stress is only about my reaction to what's happening, and that I can learn to react and create differently, then perhaps this is the greatest discovery and stress management help that I could
ever learn and know about!"
It IS empowering to know that I can be in charge of my stress-level.
To know that if I cause my own stress by my own creations, reactions and focus, that there's something I CAN do about that - is WONDERFUL! This means that I'm not ever helpless, and I'm not a victim to anyone or anything!
Making the jump from anger and resistance toward acceptance and excitement about this truth is the early and first steps for improving how you more steadily manage the self-inflicted stress in your life. Next, is the ongoing development and strengthening of your understanding of this truth.
Use this stress management help article and my 120 Stress Management Strategies book as tools for to building your own resilience, ability and empowerment around how much stress you feel. With these resources, and your own smart intuition, you can one day soon joyously say, "I feel NO worry, stress or dread!"