9 out of 10 professionals, like you who visit this Site and take the Quiz, tell me that this statement, "I feel no worry,stress or dread" is absolutely Not True for them. They DO feel worry, stress and dread every day.
According to a more "official" survey compiled by the American Psychological Association: 61% of workers list heavy workloads as a significant impact on stress levels; 25% of workers have taken a mental health day to cope with stress, and 54% of workers are concerned about health problems due to stress.
Is this just "the way things are when you work?" Or can you still have a very busy work and home life and live with less stress, and more joy? Is that possible in today's world?
I believe you can create less stress and more joy, and that you have more control over the stress you are living then you might currently realize.
One of the steps for finding stress management help is to first breakdown where stress comes from, in general terms. This will help you focus on the mental, emotional and physical actions that will help you reduce stress.
Stress can be broken down into three categories:
The last category, Self-Inflicted Stress, is what I will focus on in this self management help article. That's because it impacts every area of your life, all day, every day. It's also where have you the greatest opportunity to take control of how much stress, worry and dread you live with.
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Learning how to handle how much stress, worry & dread you allow yourself to live with, is within your control, and will determine whether you wake up feeling eager or dread. Professionals who've mastered their ability to manage stress have learned how to balance and diffuse inner tensions and thoughts. They know how to appropriately separate themselves from stressful situations and maintain their own sense of inner peace, even when 'things' are chaotic.
Handling stress effectively, or ineffectively, is a learned skill and habit. And you have more control than you sometimes acknowledge.
Stress Management Help - The 'Real Truth' I want to Share With You About Stress
You may not like this 'Truth' but here it is:
Whatever level of stress you are feeling on an ongoing basis is YOUR OWN CREATION. It isn't the pressure and situations in your life that
causes the stress, it's your OWN LEARNED and HABITUAL REACTION to the pressure that creates the worry, stress and dread you're feeling.
This 'truth' made me kind of mad when I first heard it. And, initially, I didn't like the quote (above) from Writer Natalie Goldberg where she's basically telling us to not make such a big deal out of things. My inner dialogue, when I first saw her quote, went something like this, "How could this stress I am feeling be my my creation?!?! And, how can I just 'lie down' - this is SERIOUS!! Let me tell you how bad it is...They did this...And then that happened...and this happened...and... "
This idea of stress being our own creation and that we can control (and/or manage) our reaction to what is happening around us, may cause you to feel a little defensive at first, like I did.
But maybe you'll be like me and, over time, start to LIKE this truth. You might find that you like the idea that how much stress you feel relates to how well you learn how to take care of yourself and your reactions.
Here's some of my own thinking about all of this that helped turn my initial defensiveness around, "If the level of stress I'm feeling is my creation, then I can create something different. Knowing that my stress is only about my reaction to what's happening, and that I can learn to react and create differently, then perhaps this is the greatest discovery and stress management help that I could
ever learn and know about!"
It's empowering to know that I can be in charge of my stress-level. To know that if I cause my own stress by my own creations, reactions and focus, that there's something I can do about that is wonderful! That means I'm not ever helpless, and I'm not a victim to anyone or anything!
Making the jump from anger and resistance toward acceptance and excitement about this truth is the early and first steps for improving how you more steadily manage the self-inflicted stress in your life.
Next, is the ongoing development and strengthening of your understanding of this truth.
Use this stress management help article and my 120 Stress Management Strategies book as tools for to building your own resilience, ability and empowerment around how much stress you feel. With these resources, and your own smart intuition, you can one day soon joyously say, "I feel NO worry, stress or dread!"