Stress Management Strategies Interview: Beat Depression Naturally
Expert Laura Frisbie
The first conversation I had with Laura Frisbie,I knew I wanted her to share her stress management strategies with the Wake Up Eager community. Laura is bright, calm, open and friendly - someone with whom you meet and very quickly feel like you've known her for a long time. Laura is the publisher of beat-depression-naturally.com website and is a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner. What Laura does is fascinating and I know you'll find useful stress management strategies and uplifting insights. You can feel her personality and passion shine through in every comment.Thank you Laura! Suzie: Laura, thank you for taking time to share your stress management strategies and insights. First, please tell folks what you’re passionate about in your work, along with what you do and why you do it. Laura: I do a holistic type of therapy called Resonance Repatterning. I work with people in many countries as it is over the phone. Sessions follow a structured process that combines muscle-testing (distance kinesiology) with specific “repatternings”. I have a stack of manuals containing over 70 different “repatternings”. Each one goes to the heart of what holds a problem in place. Examples of the repatternings are Self-Image, how you were Parented, Relationships, Intentions, Negative Thoughts, Inner Light, Communication, and so on. The body of work draws on ancient and modern healing systems as well as hundreds of different healing techniques. Rather than trying to figure out and problem-solve an issue, the muscle-testing combined with the manuals and the healing techniques access a much wider intelligence. I’d have to say that the incredible wisdom that arises through sessions is what I am most passionate about. It proves (to me) that we all have a higher self; a higher power and inner wisdom that can guide us and help us heal what is otherwise unconscious and inaccessible. You know that “aha” moment when the light goes on and all of a sudden, the issue you’ve been stuck in gets clear? That is what happens in sessions... it happens because we open up to “not knowing” and letting the greater wisdom come through. It’s cool. I do it because it works. I tell people to trust the process and even when they’ve never done anything non-traditional in their life, it still works. I also do it because of the meaningful connection... there is connection to another soul and connection to higher power and it is like nothing else I know of.
Suzie: So we can all know more about you personally, tell us about a hobby or interest that you have, outside your work in counseling, publishing and sharing stress management strategies. Laura: Chi Kung (an ancient Chinese moving meditation) helps me move stagnant emotions and energy quickly in a body centered, non-intellectual way. It helps me balance all the sitting, thinking and feeling I do. I also make bead necklaces, another way for me to get “simple” in a physical way, and I’m learning how to play tennis.
Stress Management Strategies & Insights:
"It’s not that we are “sick” so much as we are learning how to heal and grow. Think about it... the generations before us did not have opportunities for healing. They couldn’t model it for us. We are like pioneers, blazing the trail in personal healing. The healing process is an unknown, it is uncomfortable, and it triggers our safety issues."
---Laura Frisbie, Beat Depression Naturally Suzie: So many of our Wake Up Eager Survey participants (9 out of 10) say they need stress management strategies because they’re experiencing incredible worry, dread and stress. Could this mean that some people are depressed? How can a person know? Laura: Worry, dread and stress do not mean we are depressed. Once you are depressed, you don’t care enough to feel worry, dread, and stress because the “caring” part of you has burned out. It is SO important to “shift” before depression sets in, while you still care. A person is depressed when life feels like a lose-lose proposition, when nothing lights you up inside. If you feel no innate appreciation for the growth that your life experiences bring you, if you feel no sense of awe for the greatness of your fellow human beings or for nature or the cosmos, you are depressed. If there is nothing about who you are, what you love, or what you bring to life that you feel good about, I’d say you are depressed. How can drugs repair that? They may help you exist through it, but they will not heal it.
Suzie: Do you believe people are doomed to worry and stress or can they create new habits? Can stress management strategies work? If so, what stops most people from doing something different? Laura: Feeling doomed is a signal that you’ve lost your connection to something crucial and that healing is needed. There are two things that stop us from using stress management strategies and stop us from doing something different: - Fear of change and of the unknown. This is “hardwired”, it is your brain’s way of keeping you safe. No matter how bad the “known” is, at least you are still alive. Your brain figures anything is better than to risk the unknown. Never underestimate the power of safety!
- We don’t know HOW to change. It’s not that we are “sick” so much as we are learning how to heal and grow. Think about it... the generations before us did not have opportunities for healing. They couldn’t model it for us. We are like pioneers, blazing the trail in personal healing. The healing process is an unknown, it is uncomfortable, and it triggers our safety issues.
Stress Management Strategies & Insight:
"Once you shift from life as a problem to be solved (or endured) to an exciting challenge for growth, waking up eager flows naturally.
The “key to life” is knowing that you can handle (and grow from) any experience that life gives you. Once you truly own that place inside you, you are good to go."
---Laura Frisbie, Beat Depression Naturally Suzie: What stress management strategies, actions and mindsets do you most recommend to help people find and feel less worry, stress and dread and find more wake up eager days? Laura: - Key stress management strategies tie to how we ascribe meaning in life and we can’t NOT do so--because we are meaning-making machines! Being careful about what we make meaningful is important.
Also, questioning the meanings we make, go a long way in changing our experience of life. Byron Katie, a brilliant teacher, advises us to look at our thoughts and to ask, “Is that true?”
Or you can ask, “Since I am a meaning-making machine, what meaning can I make that serves me, that enlivens and empowers me?”
Then I can say about my pain, fear, loss, or hardship that my soul intended and destined this experience for my personal growth and evolution. I know that on the other side of my suffering lies a wiser, stronger, and more compassionate self.
I ask “What might I be learning by having this experience?” And... I assure myself that I AM learning and therefore I won’t have to go through THIS again! - Give yourself permission to feel exactly how you feel, give yourself permission to feel ANYTHING. Then feel it as deeply as you possibly can.
Savor your feeling. Notice exactly what sensations are in your body when you feel your feelings. Be “WITH” your feelings as much as you can muster.
Imagine your feeling is like a rip tide--fight it and you are lost. Surrender and release into it and before you know it, you’ll pop up and breathe again.
Try it…it works. Then ask your heart what you need. Not in a problem-solving way. In a “I need a hug” way. Whatever it is that you need, be a loving Mommy toward that need. Hold it, honor it, support it. Commend your need as being wise and beautiful. And it is, it truly is. - Make a list of people that you hold in awe. Who is amazing? Look at all that your fellow human beings accomplish. Aren’t skyscrapers amazing? Cathedrals? Cell phones? Novelists? Artists? Spiritual leaders? Agents of social change? Your big-hearted Aunt? Hold these amazing people in your heart and mind.
YOU are part of that club, YOU are an aspect of the awesome intelligence that flows through all life. This is a most excellent way to raise your energy field. Honestly, life doesn’t stress you in the same way once you “join the club” and feel part of life’s incredible heart, its possibility and intelligence.
Suzie: Tell us how people can use the beat depression and stress management strategies tools and resources on your site to manage worry, stress and dread. Laura: Most cases of worry, dread, and stress arise from deep, learned patterns. They are usually unconscious and impossible to uncover on your own. Some pages on my site provide ways to trigger your hidden feelings and patterns and bring them into awareness for questioning and reflecting. Worry, stress, dread, depression, abandonment issues, grief, you name it... are an inside job. I have a saying, “Knowing better doesn’t make me better.” Problem-solving and thinking (like books and cognitive therapy) generally don’t do thejob. Many people are dissatisfied with medication. I gently provide a counter message that we have a natural inner light and power to heal. Tap into your inner light, release the unresolved needs and emotions and relationships from the past. Identify and shift unhealthy beliefs. When you change from the inside out, life circumstances follow suit-- like day follows night. There are many techniques we can practice to raise our “vibration” (which is always good). However, without identifying and shifting the underlying issues, we just end up with yet more “to do”. Boy, do I ever know THAT pitfall! My site activates those who understand how powerful inner change can be to do sessions with me. Sessions are the best tool I know of.
Stress Management Strategies & Insights:
"YOU are an aspect of the awesome intelligence that flows through all life. This is a most excellent way to raise your energy field. Honestly, life doesn’t stress you in the same way once you “join the club” and feel part of life’s incredible heart, its possibility and intelligence."
---Laura Frisbie, Beat Depression Naturally Suzie: What do you think are the things that stop most people from waking up eager more often? Laura: Once you shift from life as a problem to be solved (or endured) to an exciting challenge for growth, waking up eager flows naturally. The “key to life” is knowing that you can handle (and grow from) any experience that life gives you. Once you truly own that place inside you, you are good to go.
Suzie: What stress management strategies do you personally do to stay energized, focused and interested in your work? Laura: I see snags and slumps as opportunity for my own growth. I know I can help myself so I do a session with myself and shift myself to a higher level. I also ask for help! I put it out to the universe that I could really use some help and guidance with something (prayer). Then I wait for help to arrive…in the form of inner realizations or in the form of a class or a coach or whatever. Also, I have learned that I MUST balance, balance, balance. Head with body, sitting with movement, solitude with companionship, learning with being, indoors with outdoors. I love my work. My challenge is to make room for “other stuff” !
Suzie: Tell us about your coaching program. Laura: There isn’t much to tell. Folks look for help on the internet and find me. We do some sessions and they feel better. That’s the program in a nutshell. I do sessions for people who want them (and that is the secret ingredient…they WANT them). So I don’t have a “program”. People feel better faster than they expect to. They pretty much always have deep shifts with three sessions. Many choose to do on-going maintenance (like once a month) and others just come back for more when they hit a new snag (when they are ready for another level of growth). I am so fortunate to attract highly aware and intelligent people. I had some concerns about who I would attract via the net, but it has worked out beyond my wildest dreams.
Suzie: How can people contact you? Laura: I like to make appointments personally, either by email or after a brief conversation. I’m always happy to talk and answer questions. It works well for folks to browse around the site and get a feel as to whether they feel drawn to my style. What I do is unique, so someone who needs a predictable, traditional approach may not be open to it. I want people to feel clear that they want to do this before booking a session. My email is laurafrisbie@charter.net and my site is www.beat-depression-naturally.com (Don’t let the name fool you, I work with much more than depression, as you've seen here in this stress management strategies interview.)
Stress Management Strategies & Insight:
"I have learned that I MUST balance, balance, balance. Head with body, sitting with movement, solitude with companionship, learning with being, indoors with outdoors. I love my work. My challenge is to make room for “other stuff” !"
---Laura Frisbie, Beat Depressoin Naturally Click here for more stress management strategies and insights.
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